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Tuesday, August 29, 2023

Prologue to a Dream??

Prologue to a Dream

Dream combinations are made up of elements that are closely connected in the dreamer's thoughts, and to represent causal relationships Freud states that they use two methods (Freud, 1911):

  • They can present the subordinate clause as a preliminary dream and then attach the main clause to it as the main dream.
    • In this method, the dream first presents a situation that sets the stage for the main event. For example, a dream about being lost in a forest might be followed by a dream about being attacked by a bear. The forest represents the dreamer's feeling of being lost and confused, while the bear represents the dreamer's fear of being harmed (Freud, 1911).
  • Dreams can reverse the order of events
    • In this method, the dream presents the main event first and then the subordinate event. A dream about getting married might be followed by a dream about meeting the person that you are going to marry. The marriage represents the dreamer's desire for commitment, while the meeting represents the dreamer's first steps toward achieving that goal.
Freud suggests that these are just two of the many ways that dreams can represent causal relationships. If this is true then we gain a deeper understanding of our thoughts and feelings by understanding how dreams work. Freud (1911) gives another example of "such a representation of causality":

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The reported dream is divided into two parts which are a short prologue and a longer more detailed dream composition. The prologue involves the dreamer scolding two maids for taking too long to prepare food and seeing heavy kitchen utensils turned upside down to drain. Then the maids go to fetch water and have to climb into a river that reaches up to the house courtyard.
This division of the dream does not necessarily indicate a causal relationship between the thoughts of the two parts (Freud 1911). There are some possible connections that could be made:
  • The dreamer's anger at the maids for taking too long to prepare the food could be related to the dreamer's fear of being left without food.
  • The image of the heavy kitchen utensils turned upside down to drain may symbolize the patient's feelings of being overwhelmed or weighted down.
  • The maids' journey to fetch water from a river that reaches up to the house could represent the dreamer's struggle to meet their basic needs.
According to Freud (1913), the meaning of the dream can only be determined by considering the dreamer's individual thoughts, feelings, and experiences. The division of the dream into two parts and the use of certain symbols may provide clues to the dreamer's unconscious mind:
  • Prologue
    • anger at being left without food, feeling overwhelmed or weighed down
  • Dream composition
    • struggle to meet basic needs, unconscious desires for help


References



Freud, S. (1911). The Interpretation of Dreams (3rd ed.). Hayes Barton Press. https://bookshelf.vitalsource.com/books/L-999-74204


Dream Thought Connections - Freud



Dream Thought Connections



Art is better at revealing how things are connected than dreams are. This is no surprise since they are made of different stuff. Painters and sculptors show connections by putting things together in a certain way. In some older paintings, artists would draw labels next to characters to show what they were saying. This could be seen as evidence that paintings cannot show connections as well as words, but does it really?
Dreams present complicated thoughts, but Freud did not believe that these thoughts showed how things are connected in the real world. If the content of dreams is made up of things that happened during the day without revealing the logical connections between these things, then are speeches in dreams just copies of speeches that happened during the day? Freud did not believe that they showed the way in which things are connected in the real world. Dreams do not typically show how dream thoughts are logically connected. Contradictions in dreams often only indirectly reflect contradictions between dream thoughts.

There are a variety of ways that dreams can indicate logical relations between dream thoughts. Some dreams ignore logical structure altogether, while others attempt to represent it as completely as possible.

One way that dreams show logical connections is by combining dream thoughts into a unified situation or event. This can be seen as a way of representing logical connections in the form of simultaneity.

Another way that dreams can show logical connections is by placing two elements close together. This can be seen as a way of indicating a particularly intimate connection between the corresponding dream thoughts.

  • Logical relations between dream thoughts do not obtain any particular representation in the dream. This means that dreams do not typically show how dream thoughts are logically connected. For example, if a dream thought contains two contradictory ideas, the dream will not typically show both ideas being expressed. Instead, the dream may only show one of the ideas, or it may show both ideas but in a way that does not make it clear that they are contradictory.
  • Contradictions in dreams correspond with contradictions between dream thoughts only indirectly and intermediate fashion. This means that contradictions in dreams are often not direct reflections of contradictions between dream thoughts. For example, a dream may show two events happening at the same time, even though the dream thoughts contain two ideas that are logically contradictory. This is because the dream is trying to represent the logical connection between the two ideas, even though it cannot do so directly.
  • Dreams can use symbols or metaphors to represent dream thoughts. This means that dreams can use objects, people, or events that have symbolic meaning to represent the dreamer's thoughts and feelings. For example, a dream may use a snake to represent fear, or it may use a house to represent the dreamer's family.
  • Dreams can change the order of events in the dream. This means that dreams can show events that happened in real life in a different order in the dream. For example, a dream may show a person getting married before they meet their spouse. This change in order can be seen as a way of trying to show the logical connection between two dream thoughts, even though the dream cannot do so directly.
  • Dreams may or may not show logical connections between dream thoughts. Some dreams ignore logical structure altogether, while others may attempt to represent it as completely as possible. This difference in emphasis may be due to a variety of factors, such as the dreamer's personality, the dream's content, or the dream's setting.
  • Dreams can combine different dream thoughts into a single scene or event to show logical connections between them. For example, a dream may combine two dream thoughts that are logically related into a single scene in which both ideas are expressed.
  • Dreams can show logical connections between dream thoughts by placing two elements close together in the dream. For example, a dream may place a person and a snake close together to indicate that they are closely related in the dreamer's mind. This can be seen as a way of showing logical connections between dream thoughts in the form of spatial proximity.


References




Freud, S. (1911). The Interpretation of Dreams (3rd ed.). Hayes Barton Press. https://bookshelf.vitalsource.com/books/L-999-74204
 







Activating Your Psychological Demon Slayer

 

The Psychological Significance of Keeping Your Demons at Bay by Turning Them Against Each Other


We all have demons. They are the negative thoughts, emotions, and memories that haunt us. They can keep us up at night, make us feel anxious and depressed, and sabotage our relationships and goals.


But is there a way to keep our demons at bay?

This may sound counterintuitive, but it is actually a very effective way to deal with negative thoughts and emotions. When we focus on the negative, it tends to snowball. One negative thought leads to another, and before we know it, we are completely overwhelmed.


But when we turn our demons against each other, we break the cycle of negativity. We start to see the absurdity of our negative thoughts, and we realize that they are not as powerful as we thought they were.


For example, let's say you are struggling with anxiety. You might have a negative thought like, "I am going to fail this test." This thought can lead to a spiral of anxiety, making you feel more and more stressed and overwhelmed.


But what if you turned that thought against itself? What if you said, "That's ridiculous! I have studied for this test for weeks. I am going to do great."


This simple act of defiance can be very powerful. It can help you see the irrationality of your negative thoughts, and it can give you the strength to overcome your anxiety.


Of course, turning your demons against each other is not always easy. It takes practice and patience. But it is a very effective way to deal with negative thoughts and emotions.


If you are struggling with demons, I encourage you to try this technique. It may just be the key to keeping them at bay.


Here are some additional tips for turning your demons against each other:


  • Identify your demons. What are the negative thoughts, emotions, and memories that haunt you?
  • Challenge your demons. Ask yourself if your negative thoughts are really true. Are they based on evidence?
  • Defy your demons. Stand up to your negative thoughts and emotions. Tell them that they are not going to control you anymore.
  • Focus on the positive. When you start to feel overwhelmed by negative thoughts, focus on something positive. Think about a happy memory, or spend time with someone you love.


Remember, you are not alone. Everyone has demons. But you can keep them at bay by turning them against each other.

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