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Saturday, June 29, 2024


 Do you ever feel like time just slips away with ADHD?

Struggling to get things done on time is a common challenge for people with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). But what if the problem goes beyond simply forgetting appointments or tasks? Mette (2023) suggests that adults with ADHD may have difficulties with something even more fundamental: perceiving time itself.

The Brain Regions Involved in Time Perception

Scientists are starting to unravel the mystery behind time perception difficulties in ADHD. Several key brain regions seem to play a role (Mette, 2023):

  1. Prefrontal Cortex: This area acts like your brain's control center and is responsible for planning, decision-making, and working memory. When the PFC isn't functioning optimally, it can be harder to gauge time effectively and manage tasks accordingly.
  2. Cerebellum: This region involves motor control, coordination, and, yes, even timing. Studies using fMRI (fancy brain scans) have shown that adults with ADHD have increased activity in some regions
    of the cerebellum during time estimation tasks with distractions. It's like the cerebellum is working overtime to compensate for underlying timing issues.
  3. Basal Ganglia: This group of structures involves habit formation, learning procedures, and timing aspects. Researchers are still figuring out how exactly the basal ganglia contributes to time estimation difficulties in ADHD, but it's definitely a player.

Brainwaves and the Clock in Your Head

Mette (2023) tells us that studies using EEG have measured brainwave activity during time estimation tasks in adults with ADHD, and here are the results:

  1. They showed different patterns compared to healthy individuals. Specifically, one study found that adults with ADHD had lower levels of theta waves during time estimation. Theta waves are essential for functions like learning, memory, and attention.
  2. This suggests a potential link between altered brainwave activity and time perception struggles in ADHD.

Gamma Waves and a Boost from Medication

A different type of brain scan, MEG, looked at brain activity related to gamma waves during time estimation tasks. Gamma waves are associated with higher-level thinking, like attention and processing information, and here is what Mette (2023) found:

  1. Adults with ADHD had reduced gamma activity in specific brain regions crucial for time perception.
  2. Medication seemed to improve gamma activity and performance in the time estimation task.
  3. This suggests that medication might play a role in regulating brain activity and aiding time perception in ADHD.

References

  1. Mette, Christian. (2023). Time Perception in Adult ADHD: Findings from a Decade—A Review. International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health. 20. 3098. 10.3390/ijerph20043098. 

Friday, June 28, 2024

Come Undone: The Psychology of Falling Apart (and Putting Yourself Back Together

Duran Duran's pulsating anthem "Come Undone" isn't just catchy; it's a potent exploration of losing control and the desperate desire to rebuild ourselves.  As a psychology blogger, I find
this song resonates with the core of human experience: the cyclical nature of breakdown and breakthrough.

The Unraveling: When We Come Undone

The lyrics vividly depict emotional disintegration: "Spun around, ca
n't find my ground / Pressure's on, can't make a sound."  This intense imagery captures the feeling of being overwhelmed by stress, anxiety, or trauma.  Psychologically, this state can manifest as emotional dysregulation, where we struggle to manage our feelings healthily. We might experience panic attacks, withdrawal, or even self-destructive behaviors.

The Underlying Issues: What Tears Us Apart?

The song doesn't delve into the reasons for coming undone, but psychology offers some insights.  Life throws us curveballs – job loss, relationship breakups, grief – and these events can trigger a breakdown, especially if we haven't developed healthy coping mechanisms.  Unresolved childhood trauma can also play a role, making us more susceptible to emotional triggers.

Picking Up the Pieces: Rebuilding After We Come Undone

The song doesn't end on a note of despair.  The lyrics shift to a yearning to piece ourselves back together: "Gotta find a way, gotta find a way / Gotta mend the pieces, gotta see another day."   This reflects the resilience of the human spirit.  Psychologically, this rebuilding process involves seeking support, developing coping mechanisms, and potentially even therapy to address underlying issues.

The Importance of the Community: We Don't Have to Come Undone Alone

The song doesn't mention reaching out for help, but psychology emphasizes the importance of social connection during challenging times. Talking to trusted friends, family, or a therapist can provide a safe space to process emotions and develop healthy coping strategies. Support groups can also be invaluable, offering a sense of belonging and shared experience.

Coming Undone as a Catalyst for Change

While a breakdown can be a harrowing experience, it can also be a catalyst for growth.  Sometimes, we must hit rock bottom to re-evaluate our priorities and make positive life changes.   Therapy can help us identify unhealthy patterns and develop new ways of managing stress and difficult emotions.

The Takeaway: We All Come Undone Sometimes

"Come Undone" reminds us that emotional breakdowns are a part of the human experience.  Coming undone doesn't define us; it's a sign that we need help and support.  By acknowledging our struggles and reaching out for help, we can rebuild ourselves stronger and more resilient.  The next time you feel yourself coming undone, remember this: you are not alone, and there is a path forward.

Is Sophie Really a Naughty Girl, or Just Finding Herself? A New Look at Les Malheurs de Sophie


Many of us grew up with stories like Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls, celebrating girls who challenge expectations. But what about classic tales like Les Malheurs de Sophie (Sophie’s Misfortunes)? This French children’s book tells the story of a mischievous young girl, but is Sophie just naughty, or is there more to the story?

From Rebel to Reform:

Mangerson (2021) states that Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls empowers girls to break the mold, but Les Malheurs de Sophie has the opposite goal: 

  1. Sophie is constantly in trouble, and the story presents her behavior as something she needs to overcome to become a “good girl.”

Why is Sophie Still Popular?

Despite its seemingly outdated message, Les Malheurs de Sophie remains popular
. This suggests that some aspects of Sophie’s transformation might still resonate with readers today. But what if we looked at the story through a different lens?

Beyond Naughty or Nice:

This is where things get interesting. Literary scholars are proposing a new way to understand Sophie’s character.  Maybe her “misfortunes” aren’t just about bad behavior but about her struggle to find her place in a world with strict gender expectations.

Is Sophie Gender-Fluid?

The idea is that Sophie might not be a “naughty girl” but a child who hasn’t yet settled into a binary gender identity (think boy or girl). Her love of climbing trees and playing with toy soldiers might not be signs of naughtiness but of exploring different ways of being.

The Power of Stories:

Children’s literature plays a significant role in shaping how kids see themselves and the world. Stories like Les Malheurs de Sophie can reinforce traditional ideas about gender. But this analysis encourages us to think critically – are these stories helping or limiting young readers?

Sophie’s Adventures:

The complete analysis dives deeper into specific moments from Les Malheurs de Sophie. It explores how Sophie’s play choices, her desire for adventure, and even her friendships are judged through the lens of femininity during that time. (Mangerson, 2021)

So, what do you think?  Is Sophie a naughty girl, or is there more to the story?  Let us know in the comments below!


References

  1.  Mangerson, Polly. (2021). Naughty Girl, or Not a Girl? Behavior and Becoming in Les Malheurs de Sophie. Open Cultural Studies. 5. 273-283. 10.1515/culture-2020-0134. 

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