Splendor In The Grass

 A Coming of Age

Alcohol addiction has been around for centuries, and its early days were marked by a lack of understanding about the nature of addiction. Alcohol was often seen as a social lubricant and a way to relax and unwind. It was not until the 20th century that alcohol addiction began to be recognized as a serious problem.

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Video gaming addiction is a more recent phenomenon, and its early days were marked by a similar lack of understanding. Video games were often seen as harmless entertainment, and there was little concern about the potential for addiction. However, in recent years, there has been growing awareness of the dangers of video gaming addiction.

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Video gaming addiction is becoming a serious problem. To validate its seriousness, I want to compare the coming-of-age of alcohol addiction to where video gaming addiction is at now.

1. Availability: Alcohol has always been readily available, but video games have become increasingly accessible in recent years. With the advent of handheld consoles, smartphones, and tablets, people can now play video games anywhere, at any time.
2. Social acceptance: Alcohol use has always been socially acceptable, but video gaming addiction is still stigmatized. Many people still view video games as a waste of time, and they may not take the addiction seriously.
   
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   Symptoms: The symptoms of alcohol addiction and video gaming addiction are similar, but there are some key differences. For example, people with alcohol addiction may experience withdrawal symptoms such as sweating, tremors, and nausea. People with video gaming addiction may experience withdrawal symptoms such as anxiety, irritability, and difficulty sleeping.
4. Treatment: There are a variety of treatment options available for alcohol addiction, including counseling, medication, and 12-step programs. There are also a growing number of treatment options available for video gaming addiction, but they are not as well-established as those for alcohol addiction.

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1. Both alcohol addiction and video gaming addiction are serious problems that can have a devastating impact on individuals and families. It is important to be aware of the risks of addiction and to seek help if you or someone you know is struggling.

The Opioid Epidemic

       The Opioid Epidemic

The opioid epidemic is a serious public health crisis in the United States. Opioids are a class of drugs that include prescription painkillers, heroin, and synthetic opioids like fentanyl. They work by binding to opioid receptors in the brain, which can lead to a feeling of euphoria and pain relief. Opioid addiction is a chronic disease that can be difficult to treat. People who are addicted to opioids may experience withdrawal symptoms if they stop using the drug, and they may also develop a tolerance to the drug, meaning that they need to take more and more of it to achieve the same effect. The opioid epidemic has been caused by a number of factors, including the overprescription of opioid painkillers, the availability of heroin, and the use of synthetic opioids like fentanyl. The overprescription of opioid painkillers began in the early 1990s when pharmaceutical companies marketed these drugs as safe and effective for the treatment of chronic pain. As a result, the number of opioid prescriptions in the United States increased dramatically.

Heroin is a cheaper and more potent alternative to prescription painkillers. It is also more easily available, as it can be produced illegally. Synthetic opioids like fentanyl are even more potent than heroin. They are often added to heroin or other drugs without the user's knowledge, which can lead to overdose and death. The opioid epidemic has had a devastating impact on the United States. In 2017, there were over 70,000 drug overdose deaths in the United States, and the majority of these deaths involved opioids.

There are a number of things that can be done to address the opioid epidemic. 

• Reducing the overprescription of opioid painkillers
• Increasing access to treatment for opioid addiction
• Educating the public about the dangers of opioids
• Cracking down on the illegal sale of opioids

The opioid epidemic is a complex problem, but it is one that can be solved. By working together, we can save lives and prevent future tragedies.

If you or someone you know is struggling with opioid addiction, there is help available. Please reach out to a treatment provider or call the National Drug Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).

Resources

Capuzzi, D., & Stauffer, M. D. (2019). Foundations of Addictions Counseling (4th ed.).Pearson Education (US). https://bookshelf.vitalsource.com/books/9780135169858

 

 Combating Negative Self-Talk

Negative self-talk is the inner voice that criticizes, doubts or belittles yourself. It can affect your mood, confidence, and performance at work. Negative self-talk can also lead to stress, anxiety, depression, and burnout. But how can you combat negative self-talk and replace it with positive affirmations? Here are some tips to help you:

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  Identify the triggers. What situations or events make you feel insecure, frustrated, or inadequate? Is it a difficult project, a demanding client, a challenging colleague, or a personal issue? Try to notice when and why you start to talk negatively to yourself. 
•  Challenge the thoughts. Don't accept your negative thoughts as facts. Ask yourself if they are realistic, helpful, or fair. For example, if you think "I'm not good enough for this job", ask yourself "What evidence do I have for this? How would I respond if a friend said this to me? What can I do to improve my skills or confidence?"
  
• Replace the thoughts. Once you have challenged your negative thoughts, replace them with positive ones. Use affirmations that are specific, realistic, and empowering. For example, instead of saying "I can't do this", say "I can do this if I work hard and ask for help when I need it".
• Practice gratitude. One way to combat negative self-talk is to focus on the positive aspects of your life and work. Make a habit of writing down or saying out loud three things you are grateful for every day. This can help you appreciate what you have and what you have achieved. 
•  Seek support. You don't have to deal with negative self-talk alone. Talk to someone you trust, such as a friend, family member, mentor, or therapist. They can help you gain perspective, offer encouragement, and provide feedback. You can also join a support group or online community where you can share your experiences and learn from others

 The Top Seven Self-Defeating Behaviors

Some habits and patterns can prevent us from achieving our goals and happiness. Here are the top seven self-defeating behaviors and how to overcome them.

1.  Procrastination: Putting off important tasks until the last minute or avoiding them. Solution: Break down the task into smaller steps, set realistic deadlines, and reward yourself for each step.
2. Perfectionism: Setting unrealistically ambitious standards for yourself and others and being overly critical. Solution: Recognize that perfection is impossible and unnecessary and that mistakes are part of learning. Focus on your strengths and achievements and appreciate the effort and progress of yourself and others.
3.  Negative self-talk: Talking to yourself in a harsh, pessimistic, or self-defeating way. Solution: Become aware of your thoughts and challenge them with more positive and realistic ones. Practice gratitude, affirmations, and self-compassion, and surround yourself with supportive and encouraging people.
4. Comparison: Measuring your own worth and success by comparing yourself to others. Solution: Realize that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, goals, and challenges, and that you are not in competition with anyone but yourself. Celebrate your own uniqueness and achievements and appreciate the diversity and value of others.
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   Fear of failure: Fearing not meeting your own or others' expectations or facing negative consequences or judgments. Solution: Redefine failure as an opportunity to learn and grow, rather than a sign of weakness or incompetence. Embrace uncertainty and change as inevitable parts of life, and view challenges as chances to test your abilities and expand your horizons.
6. Fear of success: Fearing achieving your goals, reaching your potential, or facing the increased responsibility or scrutiny that may come with it. Solution: Acknowledge your own worthiness and capability and believe that you deserve happiness and fulfillment. Prepare yourself for the possible changes and challenges that may accompany your success and seek support from others who can help you cope with them.
7. Lack of assertiveness: Not expressing your own needs, opinions, or feelings in an honest, respectful, and confident way. Solution: Recognize your own rights and responsibilities as an equal person in any relationship or situation and communicate them clearly and calmly. Listen actively and empathetically to others, and respect their rights and responsibilities as well.

What not to do for a loved one who is a victim of domestic violence.

  Domestic violence is a serious and complex issue that affects millions of people around the world. It can take many forms, such as physical, emotional, sexual, financial, or psychological abuse. It can happen to anyone, regardless of age, gender, race, religion, or socioeconomic status. If you suspect that someone you care about is a victim of domestic violence, you may feel helpless, angry, scared, or confused. You may want to help them, but you may not know how. You may also worry about making things worse or putting yourself in danger. While there is no one right way to support a loved one who is experiencing domestic violence, there are some things that you should avoid doing. Here are some common mistakes that well-meaning people make when trying to help a victim of domestic violence, and why they can be harmful. 

- Don't blame them for the abuse. It is never the victim's fault that they are being abused. They are not responsible for the abuser's actions or choices. Blaming them can make them feel guilty, ashamed, or hopeless. It can also make them less likely to trust you or seek help. 

- Don't pressure them to leave. Leaving an abusive relationship is not easy or simple. It can be very dangerous, as the risk of violence can increase when the victim tries to end the relationship. It can also be emotionally and financially challenging, as the victim may have strong feelings for the abuser or depend on them for survival. Pressuring them to leave can make them feel judged, isolated, or overwhelmed. It can also make them more resistant to change or more loyal to the abuser. 

- Don't give ultimatums or threats. You may think that by threatening to cut off contact, report the abuse, or intervene in some way, you are motivating the victim to take action. However, this can backfire and have the opposite effect. Ultimatums and threats can make the victim feel trapped, manipulated, or betrayed. They can also increase their fear of losing you or facing negative consequences. Instead of helping them, you may be pushing them away or endangering them. 

- Don't ignore or minimize the abuse. You may find it hard to believe or accept that someone you love is being abused by someone else you love. You may hope that it is a one-time incident or that it will get better over time. You may also think that it is not your place to interfere or that it is a private matter. However, ignoring or minimizing the abuse can make it worse and more dangerous. It can also send the message that you don't care about the victim or that you condone the abuse. 

- Don't confront the abuser. You may feel angry or frustrated with the abuser and want to confront them or make them stop. You may think that by talking to them, reasoning with them, or challenging them, you can change their behavior or protect the victim. However, this can be very risky and ineffective. Confronting the abuser can provoke them to lash out at you or the victim. It can also undermine the victim's autonomy and agency and make them feel disempowered or betrayed. 

So what can you do instead? Here are some positive ways to support a loved one who is a victim 💓of domestic violence. 

- Listen to them without judgment. Let them know that you are there for them and that you believe them. Validate their feelings and experiences and acknowledge their strengths and resilience. 

- Respect their decisions and choices. Understand that they are the experts on their own situation and that they know what is best for them. Support their goals and needs and help them explore their options and resources. 

- Empower them to take action. Encourage them to seek help from professionals who specialize in domestic violence, such as counselors, advocates, lawyers, or police officers. Help them create a safety plan and access emergency services if needed. 

 

- Educate yourself about domestic violence. Learn about the dynamics of abuse, the barriers to leaving, the signs of danger, and the available resources in your community. Avoid myths and stereotypes about domestic violence and challenge any victim-blaming attitudes. 

- Take care of yourself. Supporting a loved one who is a victim of domestic violence can be stressful and exhausting. Make sure that you have your own support system and coping strategies. Seek help from others if you feel overwhelmed or unsafe. 

 

Remember that domestic violence is not a problem that you can solve by yourself. It is a social issue that requires collective action and systemic change. By supporting your loved one in a compassionate and respectful way, you are making a difference in their life and in the world