Acknowledging Warning Sign Number 7

 Sign number 7 shows that someone is sinking because their navigation has been blinded (Williams 2017). This leads to social withdrawal. It's a big red flag when a friend, colleague, or loved one starts withdrawing from school, work commitments, or any obligations. The longer we wait to check in, the more their burdens can build. Here's the thing: while we want to help, sometimes our good intentions can backfire. Let's take another moment to reflect on what not to do (Williams 2017):

1. Don't preach: This is a different time for sermons. They need empathy, not judgment.
2. Refrain from analyzing their situation: Resist the urge to explain why they feel this way. Listen without judgment.
   
3. Don't make it about you: Focus on them. Sharing similar experiences can come across as dismissive.
4. Don't Dwell on Problems: Acknowledge the struggle, but don't keep circling the drain.
5. Don't minimize their pain: Don't say things like it's not a big deal. Validate their feelings.
6. Don't break promises: If you offer help, follow through. Reliability is key.
7. Don't pressure compromise: Respect their values and decisions, even if you disagree.
8. Refrain from piling on: Complaining or arguing adds to their stress. Offer support, not negativity.
9. Please don't ignore the issue: Pretending everything is fine enables their isolation.
10. Don't avoid them: Not knowing what to say is okay! Start a conversation anyway.
    

Now that we know what to avoid, how do we help? Here are some tips (Williams 2017):

• Be a Safe Space: Let them know you're there to listen without judgment.
• Offer Practical Help: Can you help with errands, childcare, or a shoulder to cry on?
• Please focus on the Positive: Remind them of their strengths and what you admire about them.
• Encourage Professional Help: If needed, gently suggest seeking therapy or a support group.
• Be Patient & Consistent: Healing takes time. Be there for them, even on bad days.

Remember, sometimes, the best support is simply being present. By offering a listening ear and a non-judgmental space, you can be a lifeline for someone in need.

References

Williams, B. (2017, September 19). Warning! Sinking Ship: Helping Those Around Us [Review of Warning! Sinking Ship: Helping Those Around Us].Https://Learningcloud.infobase.com/5752/Learnithttps://learningcloud.infobase.com/5752/learnit